ohhhhhh. That's so hard. Good thoughts going her way. Also, if she hasn't found them, there are a small handful of infertility blogs that I find just wonderful. Funny, educated, painful, and understanding. If she's willing to look to others on the web, I'd like to suggest:
GetupGrrrl at Chez Miscarriage: http://chezmiscarriage.blogs.com/
Julie at A Litle Pregnant: http://alittlepregnant.typepad.com/
Tertia at So Close: http://tertia.typepad.com/so_close/
These women are all at various stages of their paths -- two have finally managed to carry a child successfully. Not to term, mind you, but they have children born in the last six months. One is dealing with being a DES daughter and has a surrogate who sounds to be her evil twin. But they are honest and frank, and I've learned an amazing amount from them.
Meanwhile, we pray that the assholes don't say awful things to her and make her hurt worse than she already does.