Kestralyn wrote: Need a shoulder to lean on? I've got a couple. I'm a little short, but if you're sitting on a bar stool, you can probably just lean over without getting a crick in your neck.
Nawn doesn't bother me a bit, kinda short myself. (Drivers liscens says 5 foot 8, I'm not.) Not in a crying mood, but thanks for the offer.
Kestralyn wrote:Looking at this from a feminine standpoint, I hate to admit this, but... Her flirting behavior? She knows she's doing it. She may not even admit it to herself, but she does. There's an ego boost to having people of all genders think you're hot/fun/sexy/cool, even if -- or maybe even because -- you have no intention of getting involved with them. I'm sorry, telling a guy friend (or a lesbian friend) that your bust has grown is asking for them to look at you as a sexual being, rather than as a buddy.
Yeah she knows she's a flirt, and all her friends have pointed it out.
Well she didn't actualy do it on. . . well I'll let you interpert: she was measuring on the phone, and softly said something like "wtf I've grown again?".
most poeple likely wouldn't have heard it, but I've got good ears, and the phone volume was turned up.
I have been good though; I have not actualy asked what the measurments are. Though she did says she didn't mind telling, and that she posts them at work. . .
thing is she does the measuering because she's worried she'll gain weight. Sad realy. She's not anerexic, but she is damn thin. She's A Humming bird, eats all the time but burns it off just as fast.
As for the other stuff she tells me, it's gotten to the point it's "Oh, ok doesn't surprise me".
Kestralyn wrote:Also, being in a high-drama relationship is often a sign of someone who isn't really ready for a relationship that's about the two people involved. It still needs to be about "me." There's no one age where this changes, it's a maturity thing rather than a physical age thing.
I'm not going to offer any advice -- tends to be "what I would do..." which often isn't useful. But hopefully my experience on her side of a similar situation might trigger some thinking for you. As I said above, here's a shoulder or two, a couple of ears, and I'll pay for the taxi to take you home when you're ready.
You doin' ok?
Yeah, she is high drama. Lets just say she's chaos in a pretty shell. 20 some storage sheds full of "trophies", she's a Special forces cop who wants to become bomb squad, but does shit that has gotten her ass thrown in jail, and she's Catholic
Though she is trying something, to repent for one of the things she did (one of the few things she will not tell me). Ever see "40 days 40 nights"? the one where the guy gives up sex for lent. Well she's got her BF on that plan for 80
days, and she's being good for 81. No swareing, no doing anything bad, nothing sexual. . . it's killing her already. Only been a week and the BF is starting to crack, he was checking out grandmother butts at the mall.
Thanks for helping me put her into perspective. I'll stick with "Just friends", staying at the edge of the mess that she calls a life, and being that little voice that says "don't do it Beth!" when she's up to no good.
One last (odd) thing about our friendship is at times we can predict exactaly what the other is thinking/going to say.
Ok enough of my problems, who's next?